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African couple having relationship problems, Cape Town, South Africa<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n

Every couple has their ups and downs,\u00a0which is why learning how to fix a relationship by improving your communication with your partner is essential. And while it\u2019s true that some issues can\u2019t be overcome, four of the most common long-term relationship problems can be solved.<\/p>\n

At the beginning of your relationship, everything feels new. You can\u2019t imagine ever having any kind of challenge with your new partner. And, sometimes, you can\u2019t see their flaws. This new relationship makes you feel wonderful.<\/p>\n

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But, eventually, the honeymoon period ends. You start to see your partner as a real human being with flaws, like the rest of us.<\/div>\n<\/div>\n

Problems are part of every relationship. In fact, in his widely cited research,\u00a0Dr. John Gottman found that 69 percent of all problems\u00a0within any given marriage or long-term romantic relationship are unsolvable, i.e.,\u00a0\u201cperpetual problems that may represent underlying conflicts and that can lead to emotional gridlock.\u201d<\/p>\n

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This means you need to learn to understand your partner and your problems in the relationship. Nothing is as black and white as it seems.<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/section>\n

These are 4 the most common relationship problems long-term partners face, plus how to fix your relationship if you\u2019re going through any of them now.<\/p>\n

1. The sex won\u2019t always be hot<\/strong><\/p>\n

In the beginning, you can\u2019t wait to jump in the sack with your partner. It\u2019s like a new adventure. You are getting to know your partner from the inside out. You\u2019ve never felt this kind of chemistry before, so It must be right.<\/p>\n

But, after being together or married for a while, that changes. Your list of responsibilities takes over, and your relationship gets pushed lower on and lower in the order of your priorities.<\/p>\n

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What keeps the spark going is a good friendship, so it\u00a0might be time to update your \u201clovemaps.\u201dThis is where you really get to know your partner inside and out, letting go of any secrets you may have.<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/section>\n

Your relationship needs to feel safe in order to do this. That means you don\u2019t criticize one another, instead using \u201cI\u201d statements, as you let your partner know how you feel and what you need.<\/p>\n

Your emotional and physical intimacy will improve as a result.<\/p>\n

2. Your families will get in the way<\/strong><\/p>\n

You may have been the best of friends with his parents at first, but now that you\u2019re married or in a long-term relationship, they are in the way. You may sometimes feel your partner puts his family first, and you don\u2019t like feeling like second best, as this makes you feel left out.<\/p>\n

Or, maybe you never got along, but you thought getting married would change things, and it didn\u2019t.<\/p>\n

You aren\u2019t alone; many couples have problems with each others\u2019 families. They just do things differently than your family did, and you don\u2019t understand it. This is an area where you want to stay away from judgment.<\/p>\n

Remember, they are your partner\u2019s parents. Try listening to their side, again, without judgment. And make sure to let your partner know you need to feel that you come first with him.<\/p>\n

3. Some of your dreams and expectations will never be met<\/strong><\/p>\n

You entered this relationship with dreams and visions of what love is. You thought you knew your partner\u2019s love language. You thought your partner would always understand you and take your side.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s alright to go into a relationship with dreams and expectations, but, realistically, you should know that they won\u2019t all be met.<\/p>\n

This is where you need to learn to self-soothe. You can\u2019t rely on your partner for everything. When you\u2019ve been in a relationship for a while, it\u2019s easy to want your partner to soothe you when you feel down, but if your partner isn\u2019t available, then this is a great opportunity to take care of yourself.<\/p>\n

Take a bubble bath, meditate, go for a walk in the sunshine, or listen to positive music. Do something that helps revive you and brings you pleasure.<\/p>\n

This will help take\u00a0a lot<\/em>\u00a0of pressure off of the relationship.<\/p>\n

4. You will experience some level of stress around money<\/strong><\/p>\n

When you first got together, you were likely both working. You loved your work. It didn\u2019t matter who picked up the check; it just seemed to always work out \u2026<\/p>\n

Or did it?<\/p>\n

Maybe, you just didn\u2019t say anything back then because you didn\u2019t want to upset your partner. Now, you have a mortgage and\/or kids. Your income may not be as steady. You didn\u2019t think your job would be outsourced, but it was. And so on.<\/p>\n

Times have changed, but many men still carry the financial burden in relationships, and after a while, they may grow resentful about this. And of course, the same holds true when a woman is the one carrying most of the financial weight.<\/p>\n

That why it\u2019s important to make sure your partner feels appreciated by you, and the best way to do is by saying it. Let your partner know how much you appreciate the hard work they do to support your family on a regular basis.<\/p>\n

Even the best marriages and relationships have their share of ups and downs.<\/p>\n

What\u2019s important is that you learn to repair and forgive. No one is perfect, so don\u2019t expect your partner to be.<\/p>\n

This also means letting your partner know when you have messed up, with a sincere apology. It\u2019s one of the simplest ways to fix a relationship, but so many people have a hard time doing it.<\/p>\n

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Source: Your Tango<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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