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Love can be\u2026 well, complicated. Sometimes, you\u2019re so enamoured with the new shiny toy in your hands, you forget to recharge (or even think about) your own batteries. And then you get cast to the side as the toy no one\u2019s playing with.<\/p>\n
This can happen when you\u2019re in a one-sided relationship, which means you\u2019re giving 80 percent of yourself to your partner, but only receiving 20 percent of them in return. \u201cYou are consistently investing more time, energy, and effort than what your partner is reciprocating,\u201d says dating and relationship expert\u00a0Lesley Edwards.<\/p>\n
That said though, how can you really tell that you\u2019re not getting all of the attention you fully deserve in a relationship?<\/p>\n
Well, consider the below \u201cAm I in this by myself?\u201d checklist. If you can check off two or more of these as something that\u2019s currently happening in your own love life, it\u2019s offish: that sitch is quite possibly one-sided, and it\u00a0may\u00a0<\/em>be worth reevaluating\u2026<\/p>\n When you\u2019re thinking down the road, you think in terms of \u201cwe\u201d and \u201cus.\u201d But when your partner envisions themselves, they always use the terms \u201cme\u201d and \u201cI.\u201d If they haven\u2019t brought up their cousin\u2019s wedding next summer, it\u2019s possible they just may not know if you\u2019ll still be a part of their life by then.<\/p>\n Forget how much you want a future with them, and instead, pay attention to how much they actually include\u00a0you\u00a0<\/em>in theirs.<\/p>\n A night with your friend, your sister\u2019s birthday, a coworker\u2019s leaving party\u2026 whatever the event might be, you end up bailing for a sex appointment. \u201cThis most often occurs because you don\u2019t know the next opportunity they\u2019ll talk to you again, so you feel like you have to capitalise on the offer right now,\u201d says Edwards.<\/p>\n You can be all about seizing the moment, but not if it\u2019s only consistently on their schedule and when they decide to have time for you. Carpe-that<\/em>-diem, pal.<\/p>\n \u2026 so you can be more accommodating to your boo. Sure, it may not be their favourite thing to go brunch with your mum and sisters when they\u2019re in town. But Lord knows you don\u2019t love that green juice place where everything tastes like wheatgrass that they insist on taking you ever Sunday morning. It\u2019s called compromise!<\/p>\n1) They don\u2019t include you in future plans<\/strong><\/h4>\n
2) You cancel for them<\/strong><\/h4>\n
3) You sacrifice what matters the most to you\u2026<\/strong><\/h4>\n