{"id":19786,"date":"2021-04-24T07:12:30","date_gmt":"2021-04-24T07:12:30","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.kumasionlinegh.com\/?p=19786"},"modified":"2021-04-24T07:12:42","modified_gmt":"2021-04-24T07:12:42","slug":"my-mother-in-law-wont-let-my-husband-get-a-vasectomy","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.kumasionlinetv.com\/?p=19786","title":{"rendered":"My mother-in-law won\u2019t let my husband get a vasectomy"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

My husband and I spent countless hours deciding whether or not we should stop having kids.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Financial stress, previous miscarriages, and my experience with postpartum depression all contributed to our decision for my husband to get a vasectomy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But that didn\u2019t stop my mother-in-law from adding in her two cents when she rifled through the vasectomy paperwork sitting on our desk (after she arrived house unannounced and let herself into our house when we weren\u2019t home).<\/p>\n\n\n\n

My mother-in-law, a devout Catholic, took my husband aside and told him he needed to look into what the church had to say about vasectomies. But my husband and I, both decidedly non-religious, already knew what the church has to say about having a vasectomy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The Catholic church forbids birth control of all types. (No condoms, no pills, no dental dams, no sponges, no spermicide, no IUDs, no hormonal patch or implantation, no tubal litigation, no vasectomy, no nothing.)https:\/\/670d3835c6c605249e39cf0170aff438.safeframe.googlesyndication.com\/safeframe\/1-0-38\/html\/container.html<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I rolled my eyes when my husband told me about his mother\u2019s indiscretion.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Still, I decided that I could forgive her for her verbal vomit upon finding the vasectomy paperwork. After all, I understand that her religion is deeply important to her, and it\u2019s hard for her to see her child and his partner not following the laws of the church.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But the next week, she decided to take it a step further and give my husband a \u201cpresent\u201d behind my back: a book on \u201cnatural\u201d sex and why the teachings of the church against birth control are so important in keeping a strong marriage. This was no accident or slip of tongue \u2013 this was a deliberate overstep of mother-in-law boundaries.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Having strong personal beliefs is fine \u2014 but trying to decide which reproductive choices are best for me and my family? That isn\u2019t OK by any stretch of the imagination.https:\/\/670d3835c6c605249e39cf0170aff438.safeframe.googlesyndication.com\/safeframe\/1-0-38\/html\/container.html<\/p>\n\n\n\n

My mother-in-law never considered why we chose this path instead of another. Instead of opening up a dialogue, her actions told my husband that he was wrong and told me that my needs didn\u2019t matter.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I\u2019ve wrestled long and hard with the decisions I\u2019ve made in regard to motherhood. The decision to stop having children wasn\u2019t an easy one to make. But my husband and I ultimately decided that a vasectomy is best for our family.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

To suggest that I haven\u2019t weighed my options carefully enough is an insult. I\u2019m a grown woman, capable of making sound reproductive decisions. The theologian who wrote Sex Au Naturel doesn\u2019t get to tell me what to do in the bedroom. And guess what? My mother-in-law sure as hell doesn\u2019t get a say, either.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Long story short: My husband quietly went forward with his vasectomy, and we\u2019re both tremendously happy about it.https:\/\/670d3835c6c605249e39cf0170aff438.safeframe.googlesyndication.com\/safeframe\/1-0-38\/html\/container.html<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We felt completely decisive, and I know beyond a shadow of a doubt that we made right choice.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

My mother-in-law, however, still doesn\u2019t know that my husband got a vasectomy. We hid any evidence and told her that my husband suffered a running injury when she stopped by and found him limping post-surgery. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Even if my mother-in-law never finds out about our vasectomy decision, I\u2019ll l forever feel her judgment hanging over our relationship.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But at the end of the day, our reproductive decisions are our choice, and other people\u2019s opinions can\u2019t change that.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Source<\/strong>:\u00a0Unwritten<\/a><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Send your news stories to\u00a0dannyboy744@gmail.com<\/a>\u00a0and via WhatsApp on +233 266777777<\/strong><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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