I\u2019m what society would consider a pretty girl. I\u2019ve got clear skin, nice hair, a small waist, and a great booty. I dress well, wear makeup (but not too much), and conduct myself with a lot of confidence and swagger.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
I\u2019m done with the low self-esteem and body dysmorphia often inherent to women in their early 20s and am perfectly satisfied with my physical being. It\u2019s immensely liberating.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
This calm self-awareness comes not from vanity or ego. I get told regularly I\u2019m aesthetically pleasing. When I walk into a room, I see the odd head turn \u2014 not because I\u2019ve said anything particularly intelligent, but because human beings like to look at visually attractive things.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Aside from anything else, I\u2019ve got two eyes and a mirror.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
And yes, I\u2019m aware beauty is in the eye of the beholder so I may not be everyone\u2019s piece of cake; however, the primary reason I\u2019m aware my physical attributes are pleasing to most is because I worked out a while ago they help me get ahead.https:\/\/00fea2e38f1d559429041f8e858b1993.safeframe.googlesyndication.com\/safeframe\/1-0-38\/html\/container.html<\/p>\n\n\n\n
If I think looking particularly beguiling in a professional or social setting is advantageous, I\u2019ll put in the extra effort. It\u2019s a matter of standing out, without looking like I\u2019ve tried too hard.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
When I achieve this balance, I get more positive attention than not just other women, but other men. As such, I inevitably climb a few more rungs of the professional or social ladder using a V-line dress and a push-up bra.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Don\u2019t get me wrong; I\u2019m not superficial. I\u2019m smart, hard-working, and extremely well-educated. I can hold my own in any argument. But hey, so can a lot of people. The uncomfortable advantage I have is a conventionally \u201cgood\u201d physique and a terrific sense of humor. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Funny and conventionally pretty is a winning combination, and although looks and charisma won\u2019t help me do the task, they assist immeasurably in gaining me the opportunity.https:\/\/00fea2e38f1d559429041f8e858b1993.safeframe.googlesyndication.com\/safeframe\/1-0-38\/html\/container.html<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Yes, there\u2019s an awful lot I\u2019m deficient in, but give me a cute dress, a pair of heels, and a good hair day, and these flaws are masked in an instant.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Here\u2019s the thing about human beings: we like pretty people. This isn\u2019t because we\u2019re all inherently superficial; there\u2019s actually research to prove conventionally attractive individuals have a distinct primal advantage over people who are not so, and it applies to both women and men.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
It\u2019s particularly evident in the workplace.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
According to research by Daniel Hamermesh and Jeff Biddle published in the Journal of Labor Economics<\/em>, physically attractive people earn about five percent more an hour than their less attractive counterparts. In addition, conventionally \u201cunattractive\u201d people earn roughly nine percent less per hour than those who are better looking.https:\/\/00fea2e38f1d559429041f8e858b1993.safeframe.googlesyndication.com\/safeframe\/1-0-38\/html\/container.html<\/p>\n\n\n\n To put that in numbers, this means that for average-looking people earning $70,000 a year, their prettier colleagues are making $73,500, and their least attractive colleagues would earn only $63,700.<\/p>\n\n\n\n So why are we inclined to pay more attention (and money) to conventionally attractive people?<\/p>\n\n\n\n The reasoning goes back to the days when all we wanted in a partner was someone who would produce strong offspring and protect our cave from tigers.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Attractive people are immediately perceived as more trustworthy because they radiate good health (physical symmetry has long been considered a sign of strong health), and will therefore be better able to defend the cave from predators in the case of men, or easily bear and support children, in the case of women.https:\/\/00fea2e38f1d559429041f8e858b1993.safeframe.googlesyndication.com\/safeframe\/1-0-38\/html\/container.html<\/p>\n\n\n\n Writer of the Office Hours with Dr. Jim column for Online Dating Magazine<\/em>, James Houran, Ph.D. sums up the awkward specifics.<\/p>\n\n\n\n There are five particular qualities indicating physical attractiveness:<\/p>\n\n\n\n \u201cEven if we make a personal decision not to have children, the little monkey man or woman inside us tells us to choose the youngest and healthiest partner among our potential mates, who\u2019ll give us the greatest chance of making lots of babies and perpetuating the species,\u201d states Houran.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Unsurprisingly, women cop the most intense analysis of our physical appearances. This is to do with the fact men are biologically more visual than us, and as such, human history has evolved to value physical attractiveness in women beyond anything else.https:\/\/00fea2e38f1d559429041f8e858b1993.safeframe.googlesyndication.com\/safeframe\/1-0-38\/html\/container.html<\/p>\n\n\n\n You only need to look at the very public experiment carried out by Australian TV hosts Karl Stefanovic and Lisa Wilkinson in 2014.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Stefanovic wore the exact same suit for a year, and none of the general public noticed, while Wilkinson bore relentless critique for her styling, even though she doesn\u2019t actually get to choose how she looks on camera or what she wears at a shoot.<\/p>\n\n\n\n So, should we rally against this primal penchant for physical beauty as an anti-feminist double standard, or should we run with it?<\/p>\n\n\n\n As much as many feminists hate to admit it, female sexuality is extremely empowering and does not necessarily equate to being objectified. Lots of women agree that commanding attention simply by existing is pretty fantastic.https:\/\/00fea2e38f1d559429041f8e858b1993.safeframe.googlesyndication.com\/safeframe\/1-0-38\/html\/container.html<\/p>\n\n\n\n Professor of sociology at the London School of Economics, Catherine Hakim, actually suggests professional women use their \u201cerotic capital\u201d \u2014 beauty, sex appeal, charm, dress sense, liveliness, and fitness \u2014 to get ahead in the workplace.<\/p>\n\n\n\n \u201cMeritocracies are supposed to champion intelligence, qualifications, and experience. But physical and social attractiveness deliver substantial benefits in all social interaction, making a person more persuasive, able to secure the cooperation of colleagues, attract customers and sell products,\u201d she says.<\/p>\n\n\n\n If you can\u2019t back up looks and charisma with a fierce amount of intelligence and integrity, you\u2019re going to flounder.<\/p>\n\n\n\n But in an excruciatingly competitive, male-dominated workforce, gaining any means to prove your capabilities is like trying to get blood out of a stone.https:\/\/00fea2e38f1d559429041f8e858b1993.safeframe.googlesyndication.com\/safeframe\/1-0-38\/html\/container.html<\/p>\n\n\n\n So my philosophy is this: if you\u2019ve got it, flaunt it, and if you don\u2019t, then fake it \u2019til you make it. Just make sure there\u2019s substance behind the sex appeal, and you\u2019ll smash those glass ceilings, regardless of how dirty you feel doing it.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Source<\/strong>:\u00a0Your Tango<\/a><\/p>\n\n\n\n